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Friday, May 27, 2016

Studies have revealed that a men's sense of smell isn't as heightened as a woman's, which is why they can't tell when they smell badly or not, Dr. Alan Hirsch, M.D. F.A.C.P. the founder and neurological director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago, says. Here, 14 things to make him do so he smells good.

1. Tell him to shower every single day with an antibacterial wash.

Men have more sweat glands that are larger than women's, so they sweat more overall. Also, "someone who is under intense emotional stress, like a stock broker, can sweat just as much as someone who works out," Hirsch says. And since sweat mixes with the bacteria on the skin, increasing your body's natural aroma, it's not only important to shower daily, but to also use an antibacterial cleanser, like Dial, that will help reduce the amount of bacteria on skin, lessening natural body odor.


Ways For Your Men to Smell Great All the Time: http://www.lovementomen.com

2. Spray his bare torso with fragrance.

Spraying perfume over your torso and on your pulse points, like your neck and wrists, offers added benefit, because a certain amount of heat is generated in these areas," says Mark Knitowski, vice president of product innovation and fragrance for Victoria's Secret.

Thursday, May 26, 2016

Italy - After decades of struggle by gay rights groups, and months of contested political negotiations, the Italian Parliament on Wednesday evening gave final approval to a law recognizing civil unions of same-sex couples.
The vote - 372 to 51, with 99 abstentions - was followed by long applause in the Chamber of Deputies, the lower house of Parliament. At the Trevi Fountain in Rome, people with rainbow flags gathered to celebrate.
It was a historic occasion for a nation that is still dominated by the Roman Catholic Church, which opposed the measure, and where traditional family norms are still strong. It was also a victory for Prime Minister Matteo Renzi, who supported the bill.


Italy Approves Same-Sex Civil Unions, But Not Marriages: http://www.lovementomen.com

Nearly every Western country has legalized same-sex marriage or some form of civil union for gays and lesbians. Italy was perhaps the most prominent exception, and the issue has generated considerable controversy.

There is one brain part, called the anterior commissure, that's bigger in gay men's brains than in those of heterosexual males. Most of my thoughts here are about looking at what that might mean, and how it might appear. So, what's it do?
It connects two structures together. The temporal lobes on each side of the brain, including the amygdala.
So, what does the amygdala do?
Its a very, very emotional structure. And it's fast. If you suddenly notice a bus heading toward you, and you feel a 'burst' of fear, that's your amygdala; the one on the right. If you feel a burst of elation when someone looks at you with attraction in their eyes, that's your amygdala, too; the one on the left.
A gay men's brain has more connections between the opposite emotional and primal cognitive centers than other brains.


Thinking About Gay Men Brains: http://www.lovementomen.com

The amygdala does an important kind of recognition, too. It recognizes other people, or more importantly, how they're feeling. It responds to facial expressions, tones of voice, and, I'd guess, body language as well.

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

As gays and lesbians get closer and closer to the mainstream they've often traded in their image as the queer radicals who started the Stonewall Riots for the milquetoast assimilationists who want to get married and have kids and put HRC bumper stickers on their cars. That doesn't mean we're still not queer radicals. It just means we're hiding it from you.
That's right, there are all sorts of secrets that Ted and Ned, the nice gay couple next door to you with the matching BMWs and the prim sweater sets aren't telling you, probably starting with the reason they have those bolts in the ceiling of the "den" (It's for the sling and "den" is gay for "sex room"). Now, it's time to let the straights in on some of our dirty little secrets. Let's see if you still like us after this. Yes, I don't speak for all of the homosexuals, but, come on, queen, try to tell me this isn't true!


The Secrets Gay Men Don't Want Guys To Know: http://www.lovementomen.com

We can have sex anywhere at anytime

Guys always say, "It must be great to be gay because you can get laid any time." Yes, it's true. We can get it anywhere, anytime.
Straights might know about Manhunt and Grindr, but they may not know about the underwear parties, undergroup orgies, bath houses, cruisey public rest rooms, steam rooms, cottages, tea rooms, video stores, parks, glory holes, and other assorted nooks and crannies where gay guys will go in their most desperate and horniest moments. Sure, a lot of this activity has moved online and subsequently into our homes, but there are still plenty of public sex to be had. Aren't we lucky!

Cocksucker is not an insult

See the discussion about "power bottom" above, except the difference is, 99.9% of gay men love to suck dick. Therefore, if you call us a cocksucker, it says something more about you than it does about us. We love our cocks, we love to have them sucked, and we love to be the one doing the sucking. If you say "cocksucker" like it's a bad thing, your punishment should be to never have your cock sucked again. But, yeah, go ahead and call us a cocksucker. That's sort of like calling Bill Gates "rich" and expecting him to get mad about it.

We want to fuck all the hot straight Boys

When homophobes always have a gay panic and say gay men "all want to have sex with me," someone will always tell them, "That's stupid. We don't want to have sex with you." That's true-because that guy is ugly. If he was hot, gay guys will want to have sex with him. I mean, that's just nature. Gay guys are attracted to hot guys, no matter of their orientation. And if they're in the locker room or at the beach or even walking down the street, we're totally going to be checking them out. Also, many gay guys think straight guys are even hotter because they're so naturally butch and hard to get. It's like straight guys' obsession with girl-on-girl action, but in reverse. Falling in love with a straight guy is a difficult and painful trap that many gay men fall into as well, but we're not talking about that. We're talking about just the lust. If they're hot, it's there-even for your boyfriend.


Not everyone can be like my man in the bedroom (he’s the King), but you can certainly try. One night I asked him how the hell he does it so well, he told me it was all about strength and mobility – something he picked up at the gay youth ministry (Gym).
There are exercises many gay guys don’t know about that strengthen every muscle needed to be a power top. While many of us think bench pressing, lifting, and running on the treadmill is all we need, it’s actually kid stuff. You have to combine strength building with stamina, energy, and nerve pumping routines. Here are a few from my man’s plan:



10 Exercises That Will Make You a Better Gay Top: http://www.lovementomen.com

1. Bridge Holds

This one is easy – Lie flat on your back and put your arms to the side at a 45 degree angle for balance, then raise your hips off the floor by pressing your heels and palms into the ground. Squeeze your glutes and hold the position for about 30 – 40 seconds. 3 – 4 reps required.

This will undoubtedly help with thrusting and pounding, especially if your man loves to be on top to do a nasty cowboy position. This exercise helps give a stable base for him to balance on, but it also helps you to stay engaged and keep your abs as tight as possible so you can have a fast and harder thrust whilst on your back.

2. Squats

A lot of people think squats are helpful for bottoms because it lifts and tightens your ass. While this is true in a visual sense, what happens to your body is truly miraculous. Squats are known to increase testosterone levels while increasing blood flow to the pelvic region (which will give better orgasms). They also strengthen your lower body, which gives you a more powerful thrust whether you’re on top or bottom. When you decide to lift your man and do him horizontally, it’s the squats that help you from getting trembling knees. It doesn’t matter what kind you do – I like to do a combination of dumbbell squats and heavy barbell squats.

3. V-Pose (For the Hip Flexors)

Sit on the floor and lean back, lifting your legs to a 45 degree angle and forming a V-shape – hold for a minute each rep. This exercise does wonders for your hip flexors! By far, the hip flexors are one of the most underrated things when it comes to sex – never ignore them. It will allow you to move your hips in circular motions and passionate curves much more easier, especially when your man is mounting you on the edge of the bed or a chair. When you’re holding him like a baby and your penises are against each other, his arms around your back, you’ll have way more stamina to keep 



Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Life can be a hard pill to swallow. On a daily basis, we are consumed with regrets, failures and insecurities that plague our minds and control our actions.
We are overwhelmed by situations we cannot change and things we wish we could take back. We experience heartbreak, loss and fear, along with betrayal, jealousy and bad memories.
However, life doesn't have to be so hard. There's an art to learning to let things go and leaving the worries of the past to yesterday. Because in life, we're all carrying the same load, yet what differentiates us is how we choose to carry it.


10 Things you must accept and must change in Your life: http://www.lovementomen.com

Those who go through life with a seemingly unaffected attitude are the people who understand the angles of life and the differences between what can be changed and what cannot. In understanding those differences, they are able to move on and enjoy life as it's presented.

Chris Bryant-I suspect that the vast majority of LGBT people in Britain will vote just like anyone else in the EU Referendum.
They will look at the economic arguments and ask how on earth anyone can expect the UK to prosper if we turn our back on the world’s largest market (which just happens to be on our very own doorstep).
They will think about our security as a nation and wonder how we could hope to tackle international terrorism and crime without daily cooperation with the law enforcement agencies across the EU.


I’m ‘Out for In’ because the EU safeguards basic rights for LGBT people By Chris Bryant: http://www.lovementomen.com

They will ask how we could even dream of tackling climate change or environmental degradation without setting and enforcing European emissions targets through the EU.

Monday, May 23, 2016

Habits can have a powerful impact in your relationship. The definition of a habit is: “a consistent and regular pattern of behavior”. You can either create positive habits or negative habits, and once you start practicing them, they will eventually become an act that is unconscious. When it comes to having a happy relationship, there are certain habits that can have a powerful and positive impact. It’s important for you to be conciseness when creating routines, especially for your relationship. You will need to make an effort every single day to practice them so they become second nature to you. It takes about 21 days to establish a habit, whether it’s positive or negative. In this article, I will share with you 12 powerful habits of happy gay couples. These habits have helped both my relationship, and for the gay couples that I have worked with. Implement each of these habits in your relationship and start reconnecting with your partner!

Powerful Habits Of Happy Gay Couples: http://www.lovementomen.com

1. Spend quality of time in the morning to reflect and be with partner before starting the day

It’s easy to get into a training routine in which you wake up, eat breakfast, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch TV, fall asleep and start all over again the next day. This routine definitely starts draining your relationship and the connection that you have with your partner. We have such busy schedules that it’s even more important to take time in the mornings and reflect with your partner.
Protein shakes: they’re the simplest way to build muscle quickly and shrink your recovery time. But remember, with great amounts of protein comes great responsibility. If you don’t use them with care you’ll hurt those closest to you, namely your arms and abs. And it’s easier than you might think.
A study conducted by the University of Montreal found that three in four professional athletes fail to improve their performance or recovery with the help of protein supplements because they don’t know how to take them properly. Thankfully, MH has the advice to put you ahead of the pros.


Most common protein share mistakes for men: http://www.lovementomen.com

You’re overcomplicating things

Got milk? Plus dried fruit and few scoops of almond butter? You’re doing it wrong. “Load up your Diy shake with too many ingredients and you’re going to whack up the calorie count for no extra benefit,” says nutritionist Scott Baptie.

Sunday, May 22, 2016

Zachary Mallory survived anti-gay school bullying and three suicide attempts before being diagnosed as bipolar and with manic depression
After coming out as gay I attempted suicide three times before being diagnosed with bipolar disorder and manic depression but my story shows you can survive.

I used to be scared to even associate with others at school or in the community, because I was petrified that they would see what I was hiding.

Gay teen changed his life after slashing his neck in front of his parents: http://www.lovementomen.com

I came out as gay at 14, when I was a freshman in high school. It was a hard time for me. I was being bullied enough as it was for being the ‘different’ one in the classrooms. Students would laugh at me, and point at me each time I came into the classroom or even if I was just sharpening a pencil.

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Challenges of gay men.
I am bewildered sometimes at the sight of individuals who showed their awkwardness towards an innocent gay men. Yes, that face expression of awkwardness is very obvious and hurtful towards gay men. Gay men can somewhat be perceived as having a girly soft character that has always becomes a problem because it intimidates the straight man. I do not tend to discriminate gay society as a different group of people; I am just trying to portray the difference between gay people with straight individuals in our society. I am woman and 3 out of my 5 best friends in the world are a gay men. As you read on, you will realize that this hub will be focusing more on how gay men are coping with challenges in today’s society.



Why do guys feel awkward around gay men: http://www.lovementomen.com

Why do guys feel awkward around gay men? 

Let me ask you male readers out there. Have you ever been in a social gathering where you were introduced to a gay men? Have you ever met a gay man make a friendly approach towards you but only to be greeted with a disgusted faces by you?

Friday, May 20, 2016

For the most part, gay men are like everyone else on the dating scene. They're looking for affection, attention and love. Like their straight counterparts, gay men also desire connection, companionship and commitment.
Unfortunately, the gay dating pool is viciously competitive. So, instead of fighting over the newest man meat on Grindr, I recommend these practical tips for gay men:


Tips dating for gay men: http://www.lovementomen.com/

1. Try something new.

Try a sparkling, new approach to gay dating. That is, if you've been doing the same thing and expecting a different result, then change detergents, add some fabric softener and try a new way of putting yourself out there. Going to the same coffee shop, grocery store and gym leads to the same scenery and the same results. Yawn! So instead, change it up.
In the US, the gay rights movement won a major victory when the Supreme Court ruled by a 5-to-4 vote that the Constitution guarantees the right to marriage to same-sex couples. Every country in North America has made gay marriage legal, and, along the way, social media has been filled with colorful celebrations of the momentous occasions.
“No longer may this liberty be denied,” Justice Anthony M. Kennedy wrote for the majority in the US’s Supreme Court. “No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were.” In most polls, Americans favor gay marriage.


Best places in Mexico for gay travel: http://www.lovementomen.com

Celebrating the decision outside the Supreme Court, a crowd waved rainbows and chanted “Love has won.” The court stated in its decision that “procreation” was not the purpose of marriage, and thus, the restriction of marriage to heterosexual couples was discrimination against same-sex couples. Something many people might be surprised to hear, Mexico actually closed this gap before the US.

Thursday, May 19, 2016

A huge misconception that people have is that dating is easy for a Gay Men. So many women right now are trying to play cupid and get the only two Gay people they know together as a couple. I mean, why not? They have so much in common: They are both Gay.This is far from the case. In fact, Homosexual Dating is much more complicated than Heterosexual Dating. For example: When a man meets a woman in a bar/club and they go out for drinks the next day, there is no question that its a date. When a Gay men meets another and they go out for drinks the next day, that’s not a date, they’re just “hanging out.”
What the fuck is “Hanging Out?!”


15 Reasons That You’re Still a Single Gay: http://www.lovementomen.com

This is the kind of semantic nonsense we have to deal with that Straight people do not. Other examples are 
“Friends with Exes”,“Friends First” and “Antiquated gender role” bullshit that plagues gay culture like cancer (I’ll cover each of these in other posts). Don’t get me wrong, dating women is no walk in the park. However as a man who has dated women in the past, I can tell you that it is in no way full of many variables and complications as when dealing with gay men.
Mexico-President Enrique Pena Nieto proposed Tuesday to legalize same-sex marriage in Mexico, a move that would enshrine on a national level a Supreme Court ruling last year that it was unconstitutional for states to bar such couples from wedding.
If it is approved, Mexico would become the fifth country in Latin America to make same-sex marriage legal. The announcement was hailed by LGBT activists and criticized by church officials in Mexico, which is home to the second-largest Roman Catholic population on the planet.


Mexican president proposes to legalize same-sex marriage nationwide:http://www.lovementomen.com

Speaking at an event on the International Day Against Homophobia, Pena Nieto said he signed initiatives that would seek to amend the constitution and the national civil code.

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Tailoring the products you use to the age of your skin is no rocket science and is definitely something more than a simple fad. Since the clothes you wore at 25 don’t fit your lifestyle anymore, it only makes sense that the skincare products you used then are no longer the best choices for your mature skin. While regaining the youthful complexion you once enjoyed might not be entirely possible, with the right skincare routine you can improve the way your skin looks and feels in a major way.

Tips skincare for Men over 40 age: http://www.lovementomen.com

40s: Anti-ageing, eye-creams & Omega 3

This is the age when those fine lines begin to deepen, your testosterone levels start to drop, hyperpigmentation increases and your skin gets thinner and less even in texture and firmness. You might also notice some sagging happening around your jaw line, which is the result of a loss of elasticity and underlying fat. In addition, the lymphatic system (which is responsible for the way your body takes rid of toxins) starts to slow down, resulting in increased puffiness around your eyes and cheeks.
We get it. Gay men love straight women. And Straight women love gay men.
The “fag hag” has long been an established part of gay life. There have been entire sitcoms and romcoms devoted to the subject. We all know the set-up: the fabulous glamorous woman on the arm of a gay man who loves and adores all her best and worst qualities, and offers her insights into the male mind that her female friends can't provide.
It’s not rocket science. Gays love girls as they probably identified with them more growing up, and girls love gays for their honesty and humour. 


How gay men and straight men became the best friends: http://www.lovementomen.com

I’ve lost count of the number of fag hags I’ve accumulated over the years; they love me for the reasons outlined above, and I love them (and their shoes) equally.

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Eric Fanning has became the first openly gay US Secretary of the Army in history.
The U.S. Senate has confirmed Eric Fanning to be the next U.S. Secretary of the Army, making him the first openly LGBT leader of a U.S. military service.
Fanning was approved on a voice vote after Sen. Pat Roberts (R-Kansas) lifted a hold on his nomination. Roberts had initially placed the hold nearly eight months ago, purportedly to protest the Obama administration’s policy of closing the military prison at Guantanamo Bay, Cuba, and resettlement of its detainees into high-security facilities in the mainland United States. Roberts had asked the administration for assurances that the detainees would not be transferred to Fort Leavenworth in Kansas.

Eric Fanning is first openly gay men to be confirmed Army Secretary in US: http://www.lovementomen.com

But on Tuesday, Roberts said he had received those assurances, thus removing his objection to allowing Fanning’s nomination to proceed.
First, We will mentions “You’ll receive lots of d.i.c.k pics.” Fact. You will. In fact, most of the gay dating apps (Scruff, Growlr,Grindr) have “locked” or “private picture” sections that a user can unlock for any bloke to whom he is chatting. Usually, they’re dick picks. But that’s not all. In my experience, 70% are d.i.c.k picks, 20% are pics of a guy holding a camera up so you can see his face and his butt in the background-usually he is lying on his bed-8% are pics of him holding his butt cheeks and pulling them apart while (assumedly) someone else takes a picture of his rosebud (sorry, Orson Welles, but that’s what the gay community calls “that area” of male anatomy), and 2%…well, let’s just say they’re graphic. You will receive lots of d.i.c.k pics, so weed those guys out of potential dates.

Things I Know About Online Dating As A Gay Men: http://www.lovementomen.com

1. “Online dating profiles tend to be Boring As Hell
because they are usually written to cast as wide a net as possible so as to attract every single fish in the whole wide ocean.” Gay dating profiles, specifically on these apps, are usually funny, at least on first read. Many times, sexual fetishes are brought into them. “Into: Oral, Anal, WS…” You get the idea. Also, they aren’t very creative, so they get boring after the taboo of “Oh, my God! This guy is telling the word that he finds urination sexy!”

Monday, May 16, 2016

Have you ever met a guy who was in his early thirties who looked much older than his age? On the flipside, have you seen a man who you thought was 35 but later found out he was in his late 40’s?
Why such a stark difference? Is it all genetics or is that older guy doing something different? If so, what’s his secret?
According to the research, when you hit the age of 30, your skin starts to experience changes. For guys, this means your dermis starts to dry out and become dull.
And so during this time, you may notice fine lines forming around your nose and mouth and your collagen barrier begin to weaken.
Given how important it is to slow down these changes to reduce the signs of aging, we decided to do some research of our own.



Tips skin care for Men during 30 age: http://www.lovementomen.com

Specifically, we combed through expert interviews with dermatologists from around the web and examined the skin care routine of several male celebrities.

Sunday, May 15, 2016

Gay Canada - Coming out can be a complicated event for both LGBT people and family members, as it can involve issues about far more than just sexual orientation or gender identity.
For the family of a famous local newscaster, a coming-out announcement triggered fractures along hidden fault lines in their relationships that took a decade to repair.
News anchor Kevin Newman and his son, Alex, an art director at J. Walter Thompson Co., transformed the lessons they learned into their memoir All Out: A Father and Son Confront the Hard Truths That Made Them Better Men. 

Gay Canada - A lesson in family forgiveness for Alex And Kevin: http://www.lovementomen.com/

The Newmans, who moved to Vancouver in 2001 when Kevin helped start Global BC, spoke about their experiences and their book at Qmunity's 12th annual International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia breakfast today (May 13) at the Fairmont Hotel Vancouver.
The foundation for a lasting relationship requires an ongoing dedication to improvement. If you aren’t progressing together, it’s only a matter of time before you grow apart. Same-sex relationships shouldn’t be more complicated than opposite-sex relationships, but they’re examined more closely, which changes the rules of the game.
Love is universal, and it is the same for all sexual identities. Yet, gay men apply so much pressure to their relationships in hopes of a long-term commitment. There’s always room to improve the relationship between you and your partner, and here are a few tips:



How to gay mens can improve their relationship: http://www.lovementomen.com

Never forget how you met. 

I know many couples that met on hookup apps. It never ceases to amaze me when one of them is shocked to discover their man cheats using the same app.

Saturday, May 14, 2016

Building the perfect or ideal men body is a lofty goal, and if you want to accomplish that goal in your lifetime, you need to follow a plan specifically designed to help you do that.
While lifting heavy and eating well is a great start, if you want to build a truly impressive physique, an ideal male body with symmetrical proportions, you have to structure every aspect of your programming towards doing that, and doing it in the shortest time possible.
I’m talking about a truly ideal male body: the kind with broad shoulders, a narrow waist, and strong legs. The kind of body that fits into our biologically encoded criteria, and fits the Golden Ratio.
It’s not simple, but–as you’ll see below–it can be done. And we’re going to give you 5 steps to do it.



How to Build the Ideal Men Body: http://www.lovementomen.com

The problem is that we have a tremendous variety of tools in the toolbox, and it is sometimes easy to forget that not all methods are effective for all goals.


- Bodybuilders and fitness competitors gear things for fat loss, requiring adjustment of nutritional strategies.

- Athletes training for their sport practice some highly specific drills, displaying them in combines.
- Powerlifters work on becoming skilled and efficient in their primary lifts.

Of course, these are just a few examples, but the point is: no matter what your goal, you have to train specifically for that goal.
In none of these scenarios would you really benefit from using strategies intended for one goal to meet any of the others.

And so, if your goal is simply to build a lean, symmetrical, attractive, and sexy body, you have to gear your diet and training structure towards those goals.


Now, Five things you need to know to build an ideal Men body:

To Build a Perfect Men Body, Push Less and Pull More

In keeping with the ideas from above, the goal of training for sexiness should also include balance and symmetry. This is not only so you train the right way, but also because you need to make a concentrated effort to avoid training the wrong way.

As men, we’re highly visual creatures. As trainees, this translates into becoming highly focused on ‘mirror muscles’ – that is, those you can readily see in any mirror.

Guys in general tend to do a lot more work on muscles like chest than back. I cannot begin to describe the drawbacks of this mentality. Instead, I’ll focus on the main ideas of this post.

With specific regard to appearance, lopsided training which focuses on anterior (front) muscles over posterior (rear) muscles leads to pretty ugly imbalances. In addition to this being a great way to get yourself injured, it can lead to a round, forward shouldered look that is not the goal of any training program I’ve ever heard of.

Keeping in mind the idea of building a sexy body, it’s worth noting that such a look is also decidedly unattractive.

Instead, we should focus more on the muscles of the upper back: latissimus dorsi, teres major, trapezius, et al. These muscles, developed correctly, will help pull your shoulders back, helping to create the broad-shouldered look that men find powerful and women find attractive.

To prevent imbalances and help to create such a look, try to maintain a3:2 ratio of pulling exercises to pushing exercises.

As an example, 3 sets of rows, 2 sets of bench presses.

Following this pattern, you are far less likely to develop unattractive imbalances; in addition, you will be less like to incur injury. And probably be more likely to get naked. And, by the way, if you want to address this all at once, I wrote a full program on specialization for your back.


Friday, May 13, 2016

As a gay men I have a particular interest in challenging myths and stereotypes relating to gay men in America (and around the world). Myths and stereotypes that go unchallenged become stronger weapons for those who seek to oppress others in society. As the U.S.A. continues to evolve, and as gay men become increasingly more open about our true identities, we must take advantage of all opportunities to educate others about what is correct, and what isn't, in relation to male homosexuality.


10 lies you were told about Gays: http://www.lovementomen.com

Here are 10 of the most problematic myths and stereotypes which play a role in the mischaracterization and dehumanization of gay men in the U.S.


1. Gay men are promiscuous and obsessed with sex.

Myths abound about the apparent promiscuity of gay men as though sex with multiple partners and an inability to be monogamous are core features of male homosexuality – they aren't. Sexual promiscuity, when it occurs, is a human phenomenon that is not uniquely linked with one particular type of sexual orientation. As with any group of people, the sexual behavior of gay men varies tremendously from person to person, with some being very sexually active and others being almost completely celibate. In common with all human beings, gay men have sexual desire. The suggestion by opponents of equality that male homosexual desire is inherently more "sexual" or more "hedonistic" than heterosexual desire is ludicrous.

2. Gay men are all feminine.

The idea that male homosexuality is directly linked with femininity is erroneous. While there are of course some gay men who express themselves (via speech, dress and behavior) in ways which are traditionally "feminine," there are many others who do not. Men behaving in an effeminate manner is not inherently problematic or deserving of public shaming. What is problematic is the assumption that all gay men display the same type of gender behavior. Gay men, as a group, display tremendous diversity in their expressions and displays of masculinity and femininity. Part of the reason this myth about the "femininity" of gay men survives is because many of the most masculine gay men are not necessarily open about their sexual orientation and/or it is not "assumed" by others that such men are gay. In this regard, the most visible gay men are often those who superficially meet the stereotype of femininity, not those who challenge it.



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