In its latest episode, the LGBT politics show Critical Thinking on Gay Chicago TV takes on the topic of bisexuality, which has for far too long been the focus of jokes, discrimination, misinformation, and just plain ignorance from both anti-equality forces and the LGBT community itself. Extreme biphobia and bi erasure, meant to make the bisexual community invisible even within the larger LGBT rights movement, have created an atmosphere of misunderstanding that the episode addresses head on.

Looking to have fun in the bedroom, no matter what your sexual orientation?

Sex is just sex until you've learned the secrets gay men use to drive each other to orgasm.

Whether you're in a committed relationship and are looking to spice up your routine, or are looking to improve your single sex life, there's always room for improvement in the bedroom. If you're grossed out by the thought of two men having sex, then this article probably isn't for you. But even heterosexual couples can pick up some sweet between the sheets tips here. What would you try if you weren't held back by shyness or insecurity? Ready for the goods?

Okay... drum roll. Wait, one more caveat! I'm asking you to keep an open mind and truly consider what I'm about to share with you as options for enhancing sexual pleasure between you and your partner. Without further adieu:

5 Gay Sex Tips Heterosexuals Want To Try But Won't!

1. Rimming.

 
Guys if you've gone down on your ladies, you know how great oral sex is. And, for you ladies, if you're a fan of giving blow jobs, you know how much your partner loves them. So what's stopping you from taking it to the next level? Granted, a clean anus is most desirable when you're the one who will be rimming your partner. Once at your destination (the butt!) gently grasp the butt checks in hand and get acquainted. Go for gentle sweeps that becomes more and more aggressive with slight insertions every so often. I'm sure some of you are gagging and saying "No way, no how." Your loss!

2. Tea bagging.

 
This sex act is titled for its likeness to dipping a teabag into a mug of hot water; the man's testicles act as the teabag and their partner's mouth, the mug. Some guys claim they're "only into tea bagging." Kind of crazy to think that this act, and this act alone can bring someone to orgasm, but it is an art. Sure, at some point, ladies, you may have given your guy a blow job and he might have requested you move further south. Now's your chance. The art is in the gentle caress with your tongue. Be communicative about firmness, tension and pressure - communication is key!

3. Nipples, nipples, nipples, nipples.

 
Two people, four nipples, four times the pleasure. If you're a heterosexual guy, then you probably just dive in and not use much nuance. Fine, keep acting like a teenage boy playing with a woman's breasts for the first time and making it "all about you". But if you're ready to move into a more mature state, pay attention! It goes for you ladies, too. If your man has never been a big fan of his nipples being touched, he's seriously missing out. Many gay men find nipple play just as powerful as blowjobs and anal penetration. Used effectively, hot breath, light licks, gentle to aggressive bites, pinching and twisting on the nipples lead to very good things.

“Sex now?” Yes, we’re asking. Because for this milestone 150th issue of FS, our aim is to present a snapshot of the kind of sex that gay and bisexual men are having in Britain and Ireland today in all its real glory. 
We asked single guys, guys who are dating, guys in open and monogamous relationships, and married/civil partnered guys all about the best sex, the worst sex, the most sex, the least sex, what type of sex… and a whopping 3,141 of you responded.
SINGLE MEN

“This is the biggest survey that FS has ever carried out,” says Matthew Hodson, GMFA’s Chief Executive. “With over 3,000 responses it gives a fascinating snapshot of the kind of sex that gay and bisexual men in the UK are having, what they enjoy and what they are doing, or not doing, to maintain their sexual health.”

42% of the gay and bisexual men who took our survey identified themselves as single. 

When asked when they last had sex: 

• 6% said they’d had sex today (the day they took the survey). 
• 33% said in the last week. 
• 19% said a couple of weeks ago.

Who did they have sex with?

• 58% of single men said the last man they had sex with was a casual sex partner. 
• 19% said it was a sex buddy. 
• 16% said it was someone they were dating or a long-term partner. 
• 4% said it was group sex, and 
• 3% said it was a threesome. 
• 44% met that last partner via a dating/sex app.

When asked how many sexual partners they had in the last year:

• 9% of single men said they’d had no sexual partners in the past year,
• 9% had just one partner, reiterating that being single doesn’t necessarily equate to having lots of sex. 
• 26% said they had 2-4 sexual partners in the past year. 
• 27% said 5-12 partners. 
• 15% said13-29 partners. 
• 11% said 30-99. 
• 3% said over 100.

So what’s sex like for single gay and bisexual men?

“I have lots of sex but with guys I’m not emotionally involved with,” says Dan, 26 from Essex. “I would like to have intimate, loving sex.”

“I love sex and get a good amount of satisfying, varied sex,” agrees David, 25 from Belfast. “I would like to have a more regular partner though.”

“I have casual sex with guys I meet on Grindr, which might be enjoyable a lot of the time but is ultimately quite unfulfilling,” admits Simon, 39 from Bristol. “I would prefer to be in a relationship.”

“I’m very happy, but sometimes I think I should be monogamous after having two STIs,” adds Jack, 21 from Cambridgeshire. “I love having fun though. Sex is constantly on my mind”. 

“When I’m involved with someone it’s great, and I only engage in anything sexual when I know the person sufficiently well,” says Lee, 34 from Liverpool. “Although my work/life balance always gets in the way of being able to make enough time for that.”

“The reason my sex life is on its arse, and not in a good way, is because I’m a workaholic,” admits Josh, 24 from Sheffield. “I’m a classical musician, and more often than not I put practicing and work before any kind of sex life. Also, I guess on some level, gay sex terrifies me.”

“Because I lack self-confidence I don’t go to gay bars or date,” says Alex, 46 from London. “So the sex I get is through online apps or sites.”

“It’s horribly unpredictable,” says Joe, 22 from Waterford. “You can get lucky with sex buddies and have it a few times a week. On the other hand, you can go weeks or months without it.”

“I am happy but it’s hard not to compare yourself to your peers,” says James, 23 from London. “Sometimes it feels like I’m not having enough, because my friends seem to be having more. Then you actually talk to them and it turns out they’re boasting because they’re also insecure about how much sex they’re having, and the cycle continues.”

Q: Dear Mona:I'm in my mid-twenties and I'm a virgin. I've been intimate before with both girls and guys but have never gone all the way. I'm dating this great guy right now and I'm not sure how to tell him. I don't want him to run from my lack of experience. My friends have advised me just to hook up with someone random so I can avoid this awkward situation but that's not me.  I want to be with someone I really care about and I think this guy could be it. -Arthur

Last month I published an article entitled  ‘The 15 gay guys to avoid in 2015‘. The intention of the article was to challenge readers to think about the people in their lives who may be doing more harm to their general well-being than good. Many readers received the post positively while some did not. In the spirit of open dialogue and debate, I welcome criticism and comment, in fact I embrace it – this is the point of The Modern Gay Guide to Life. So when the ever-so-humorous and witty Casey Patrick Comans wrote a clever list of rebuttals against the original list it needed to be published.

Here is Casey Patrick Comans’ 15 ‘MOS TO MINGLE WITH IN 2015: