We’ve all dated men knowing we’re too good for them. Most of us love the feeling of having a boyfriend so much that we sacrifice our own dignity. It’s difficult to admit that we might be better than our partner. Doing so might make us feel arrogant or cocky, but the truth of the matter is there are certain people who are only meant to remind of us what’s missing. Perhaps it’s time to reconsider the compatibility with your man. Here are a few signs:
1. You Dumb Down Conversations
There’s nothing worse than being with a man who isn’t on your intellectual level. When you find yourself constantly having to dumb down important points of conversation you’re almost always going to max out your patience. Eventually you’ll see that it’s not just him. His entire universe (friends, family, coworkers) seem to live in another world and stooping down to their level is exhausting. You deserve more.
2. He Constantly Needs Encouragement
You’re not meant to be his life coach, but rather his partner in crime. No one wants to date a Debbie Downer, especially one who’s become independent on your advice, false hope and encouragement. A little goes a long way but when it turns into the basis of your entire relationship, you’re in for a worser fate down the road. You’re stable. He’s not. Eventually the imbalance will affect your own infrastructure.
There’s nothing worse than being with a man who isn’t on your intellectual level. When you find yourself constantly having to dumb down important points of conversation you’re almost always going to max out your patience. Eventually you’ll see that it’s not just him. His entire universe (friends, family, coworkers) seem to live in another world and stooping down to their level is exhausting. You deserve more.
2. He Constantly Needs Encouragement
You’re not meant to be his life coach, but rather his partner in crime. No one wants to date a Debbie Downer, especially one who’s become independent on your advice, false hope and encouragement. A little goes a long way but when it turns into the basis of your entire relationship, you’re in for a worser fate down the road. You’re stable. He’s not. Eventually the imbalance will affect your own infrastructure.
3. Inconsideration Of Time
A man who’s always late or makes every opportunity about himself is clearly not considering the time you have together. Not only is this rude, but it’s also a sign of an unhealthy ego. Dating a man who values his time over anyone else is never going to welcome a fair and balanced relationship, especially when you’re putting in more effort.
A man who’s always late or makes every opportunity about himself is clearly not considering the time you have together. Not only is this rude, but it’s also a sign of an unhealthy ego. Dating a man who values his time over anyone else is never going to welcome a fair and balanced relationship, especially when you’re putting in more effort.
4. He Can’t Take A Joke
A man who takes himself too seriously is consciously closing himself off. Not only will this result in you consistently having to walk on eggshells around him, but it’s also a springboard towards a controlling atmosphere. You like to laugh and enjoy life while he is too comfortable filtering out the world. It’s clear you have higher potential at contentment and satisfaction with the people around you. Don’t let him steal it away.
5. He Lacks Curiosity
A major part of living life to the fullest is curiosity. Without it, it’s nearly impossible to want to push the boundaries of our own situations. If he’s never mentioned the places he wants to do, the people he wants to meet, the goals he’s set for himself, things he’s always wanted to experience, he’s probably not going to add anything interesting to your life except sex. No one wants to date a man who’s taking up all your oxygen.
6. Your Friends Don’t Like Him Very Much
Friends see what you never do. Being in a relationship can build up blinders to enormous red flags you might not have noticed otherwise. The people closest to you are able to see compatibility much more easier than you are since they’re going based on what they see rather than how you feel. If they don’t like him, chances are, it’s not going to end well.
A man who takes himself too seriously is consciously closing himself off. Not only will this result in you consistently having to walk on eggshells around him, but it’s also a springboard towards a controlling atmosphere. You like to laugh and enjoy life while he is too comfortable filtering out the world. It’s clear you have higher potential at contentment and satisfaction with the people around you. Don’t let him steal it away.
5. He Lacks Curiosity
A major part of living life to the fullest is curiosity. Without it, it’s nearly impossible to want to push the boundaries of our own situations. If he’s never mentioned the places he wants to do, the people he wants to meet, the goals he’s set for himself, things he’s always wanted to experience, he’s probably not going to add anything interesting to your life except sex. No one wants to date a man who’s taking up all your oxygen.
6. Your Friends Don’t Like Him Very Much
Friends see what you never do. Being in a relationship can build up blinders to enormous red flags you might not have noticed otherwise. The people closest to you are able to see compatibility much more easier than you are since they’re going based on what they see rather than how you feel. If they don’t like him, chances are, it’s not going to end well.
7. You’re Paying For EVERYTHING!
He doesn’t know how to pay his bills or keep a job so, chances are, you’re the one forking up the bill. There comes a time when you leave boyhood and enter manhood, and here in good old Man Land, we switch off who pays for what. For him to constantly be in need of your credit card shows exactly how he views the relationship. Don’t make it a habit – you’re too good for that.
He doesn’t know how to pay his bills or keep a job so, chances are, you’re the one forking up the bill. There comes a time when you leave boyhood and enter manhood, and here in good old Man Land, we switch off who pays for what. For him to constantly be in need of your credit card shows exactly how he views the relationship. Don’t make it a habit – you’re too good for that.
8. Hypocrisy Becomes Routine
When he’s consistently saying one thing and doing another, it’s clear he can’t be taken seriously most of the time. He’s now doing all the things he accused you of doing in an attempt to spite you. But the worst part is he doesn’t see the irony in the situation like you do. That’s because you have a better head on your shoulders and refuse to resort to childish games.
9. He Keeps A Distance From Your Friends Or Family
He’s never ready to get close to your family or friends, i.e. he’s never going to be ready to settle down. He’s too worried about what they will say about him because he already knows you’re too good for him. Being around those who are closest to you will always make him insecure, but it’s never a valid excuse.
10. He’s Always Right
There’s nothing worse than dating a know-it-all. They’re more eager to be right than rational. More often than not they’ll fight over things they know are wrong, but they’re addiction to being right blinds them from all logic. The arguments are senseless and carry no reason, leading to a constant state of confusion. Deep down he likes to think it keeps you together, but in reality it causes more friction.
When he’s consistently saying one thing and doing another, it’s clear he can’t be taken seriously most of the time. He’s now doing all the things he accused you of doing in an attempt to spite you. But the worst part is he doesn’t see the irony in the situation like you do. That’s because you have a better head on your shoulders and refuse to resort to childish games.
9. He Keeps A Distance From Your Friends Or Family
He’s never ready to get close to your family or friends, i.e. he’s never going to be ready to settle down. He’s too worried about what they will say about him because he already knows you’re too good for him. Being around those who are closest to you will always make him insecure, but it’s never a valid excuse.
10. He’s Always Right
There’s nothing worse than dating a know-it-all. They’re more eager to be right than rational. More often than not they’ll fight over things they know are wrong, but they’re addiction to being right blinds them from all logic. The arguments are senseless and carry no reason, leading to a constant state of confusion. Deep down he likes to think it keeps you together, but in reality it causes more friction.
11. Laziness Overcomes
He’s stopped putting in any effort for the relationship months ago. Those days of sending cute text messages are over and all that’s left are memories. When you become the fuel behind keeping fuel heavy in your relationship, it’s evident how committed you are to making things work. Think of it as reflection of your character.
He’s stopped putting in any effort for the relationship months ago. Those days of sending cute text messages are over and all that’s left are memories. When you become the fuel behind keeping fuel heavy in your relationship, it’s evident how committed you are to making things work. Think of it as reflection of your character.
12. His Looks Are His Only Asset
A boyfriend who relies solely on his looks is a dangerous thing. More often than not he knows it’s his only asset and seldom tries to be anything else. This bleeds into the relationship. Because he’s so good-looking you’re quick to think that he’s too good for you, but in reality it’s you who’s too good for him. It’s him that is relying on your place in the world. He’s merely eye candy while you have potential that will take you to new heights.
13. He Makes You Feel Worse During A Bad Situation
A healthy relationship is one that sticks together and says “It’s okay. I’m here for you.” Not one who wrenches you with guilt by playing “I Told You So.” This is clearly an excuse for him to show you how right he is, even if the circumstance was inevitable. Never is it okay for him to try and convince you you’re worth less than he is. If he isn’t lifting your spirits there’s no need to continue the charade.
14. You’re A “Convenient” Boyfriend
When you find him ditching your weekend plans for something less important, but he’s attached at the hip to you whenever it matters, i.e. special events or family gatherings, he’s probably using the “boyfriend” title only when it’s convenient for him. His head isn’t in the relationship at all, but rather the swag it brings. The good news is you’re probably a trophy man which means you have your sh*t together and that makes him look good when he has you on his arm. The bad news is you’re biting out more than you can chew with him. Time to reconsider.
A boyfriend who relies solely on his looks is a dangerous thing. More often than not he knows it’s his only asset and seldom tries to be anything else. This bleeds into the relationship. Because he’s so good-looking you’re quick to think that he’s too good for you, but in reality it’s you who’s too good for him. It’s him that is relying on your place in the world. He’s merely eye candy while you have potential that will take you to new heights.
13. He Makes You Feel Worse During A Bad Situation
A healthy relationship is one that sticks together and says “It’s okay. I’m here for you.” Not one who wrenches you with guilt by playing “I Told You So.” This is clearly an excuse for him to show you how right he is, even if the circumstance was inevitable. Never is it okay for him to try and convince you you’re worth less than he is. If he isn’t lifting your spirits there’s no need to continue the charade.
14. You’re A “Convenient” Boyfriend
When you find him ditching your weekend plans for something less important, but he’s attached at the hip to you whenever it matters, i.e. special events or family gatherings, he’s probably using the “boyfriend” title only when it’s convenient for him. His head isn’t in the relationship at all, but rather the swag it brings. The good news is you’re probably a trophy man which means you have your sh*t together and that makes him look good when he has you on his arm. The bad news is you’re biting out more than you can chew with him. Time to reconsider.
15. He’ll Be Possessive Of You
Often times when a man turns possessive it’s because of deeply hidden insecurities of unworthiness. He’s afraid he’ll lose you so he slowly creeps into a possessive state, which is the first step towards a controlling relationship. A truly confident person will allow his boyfriend to be who he is and do what he wants do with little concern. Clearly you live in a much higher state of mind than he does, so you might as well face the truth.
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Often times when a man turns possessive it’s because of deeply hidden insecurities of unworthiness. He’s afraid he’ll lose you so he slowly creeps into a possessive state, which is the first step towards a controlling relationship. A truly confident person will allow his boyfriend to be who he is and do what he wants do with little concern. Clearly you live in a much higher state of mind than he does, so you might as well face the truth.
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