The most nervous event in a gay man’s single life is the first date with a new suitor. Though the choices of locations and how to dress may seem like easy tasks, how to conduct oneself, while being yourself, seems to be the part of the spectacle that we overthink about.
Does anyone really know what are the safest and most common questions to ask on the first date that do not sound redundant and uninteresting? While someone comes up with that list, I decided to tackle this on another angle. Among the questions you ask, there have to be defining questions that determine whether that suitor is worthy of a second date or much longer.
I offered a list of 20 direct questions that will help you on your next introductory date as a list that will help you get to really get to know your suitor — especially if he is good enough for a second date or the long haul.
Will you have time to see each other:
How many hours do you work a week?
Is he driven or does he know what he wants in life:
Are you working in your desired field or industry?
What are your passions?
What’s on your bucket list?
Is he a stable person:
How often have you changed jobs in your career?
How social habits:
Do you think of your home as a cocoon, or is your home an open door to your friends and loved ones?
Do you have a lot of friends?
What type of activities do you engage in outside of your work hours?
Hid financial situation and his responsibility:
Do you have significant debts?
Is he truly available to date you:
What is your current relationship with your ex(es)?
Is he emotionally stable and how he may be able to deal with conflict with you:
How have you dealt with insecurities in your past relationships?
His current state of health:
Have you ever contracted STD’s or STI’s before?
Do you have any physical ailments?
What are this vices and the things that bother him?
Do you have any pet peeves?
What do you hate most about the dating process?
What things do you like to collect?
What is one bad habit you do when you hope no one is watching?
Fun questions that could be problematic if answered in an undesirable way.
If you had to drop a holiday from the calendar, which one would get the axe?
What do you think of [Beyonce or any pop music diva] as a singer and entertainer?
If you had to go back to school or learn a new skill, what would you want to learn?
What U.S. cities would you never, ever move to even for the job offer of your dreams?
Are you a big fan of any major pro sports team?
You may think that some or many of these questions are quite intrusive to ask on a first date. Some of you may feel too intimidated to ask any of these questions at all. The end result is that I have witnessed couples breaking over one’s naivete over the other’s truth in some of these listed questions. Would you get to know these answers upfront on someone who may imcompatible with you or wait until those true colors are revealed days or months later?
Source: www.glistsociety.com
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