I can’t believe that Marriage Equality is now a reality across the country. I’m so grateful I’m seeing it happen in my lifetime. I couldn’t stop smiling the morning after the rulings, but then I stopped to think: How many of my friends are going to rush to the courthouses now that they can?
Marriage is still a pretty big deal once you get all the paperwork done and everything. I asked my newlywed friends who I’m ecstatic to call “husband and husband” why they made the leap:
“We love each other and we know we’re going to spend the rest of our lives together,” he said. “But we’ve been together for seven years. We have to protect each other and our future children. Not every couple should rush to get married now that it’s legal everywhere. Marriage is still a big deal and it ought to be taken seriously.”
Everyone is feeling the pressure in the air like a jewish mother: now that I can get married, I feel like I really should. In a matter of 24 hours I went from wanting a boyfriend to needing a husband, but times are different now – both titles mean different things. I had to snap out of it and tell myself that this isn’t some fashion trend. It’s a very beautiful thing but still not something everyone needs to have just yet.
It’s a free country, which means you can stay single or get married whenever or how many times you like. Marriage is a big commitment and no one should get on one knee carelessly.
For gay couples that plan on spending the rest of their lives together, marriage means more than just having a husband and kids to call your own, though they’re both amazing gifts to have in life. It’s about being protected by our government, uniting together as a unit under the law, and ensuring security for each other and our future family.
I love marriage. It’s incredibly important for society and to our own wellbeing. Human beings learned long ago that we’re stronger together than we are separate. Two incomes, two schedules to juggle raising kids, two point of views to make important decisions, two cars, two bank accounts – these things ease our anxiety a little and allow us to share the love we promote.
Marriage is always beautiful, but just because we’re celebrating it around the country doesn’t mean we should stop at Kay Jewelers on the way home and buy our man a wedding ring. We cannot rush into it before reflecting on how big it is.
So while we’re enthusiastically celebrating an amazing turn of events, sit back and enjoy the fact that we’re no longer second-class citizens in this aspect at least. But it isn’t a “trending” fad or something “popular” to do over the weekend. As tempting as it is to find yourself a husband in a time when all our gay friends are getting married, let’s not make ourselves too desperate.
Take a breath and be grateful that now we can. But it doesn’t mean we should, yet.
Source: www.gayguys.com
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