Russia-Jim Mulcahy was sitting with some Russian friends, munching cookies and talking about Roman mosaics, when the Russian police came and took him away, claiming he was planning to perform a same-sex marriage. Hours later, the American pastor was ordered to leave Russia.
Mulcahy’s arrest this month in the city of Samara braids together several of Russia’s most acrimonious issues: gay rights, alleged Western meddling in Russian affairs, and missionary work by religions that don’t have state approval. It attracted particular attention because the arrest was filmed by state-controlled channel NTV, whose reports often take an especially truculent, pro-Kremlin stance.

The 72-year-old Mulcahy, originally from Boston, looks back on the nervous hours in the Samara police station with stoic bemusement.

Malaysia will no doubt surprise you. This multi-cultural nation, largely populated by moderate Muslims and fiercely intolerant of being bullied by western powers, is filled with charm, nature, culture, and warm hospitality. Remarkably, it also has a thriving gay scene (perhaps Southeast Asia’s most exciting) which, while still mostly underground, is basically tolerated by the live-and-let-live attitude of its people.Yes, the country was once lead by a cranky homophobe, Mahathir Mohamad, who infamously ousted his one-time protégé, Anwar Ibrahim, on trumped-up sodomy charges, despicably wielding antique colonial buggery laws to do so.
Times change. Homohaters and dictators are relegated to the dust bin these days. Anwar’s groundless conviction was overturned by Malaysia’s high court in 2004. Mahatir’s daughter, Marina, works tirelessly behind the scenes to support AIDS/HIV education, including championing efforts by Malaysian GLBT health worker heroes.

Malaysia is thriving under the fresh air of tolerance and democracy. Straight-owned venues openly cultivate custom from the gay community, while homosexual entrepreneurs launch trendy businesses and mini-utopias of their own.
Conversations with locals are delightfully candid.

The board of directors for Cleveland Pride recently announced that the 28th annual Pride parade, rally, and festival have been canceled. It’s the first year the celebration will not take place since it started in 1989.
President and CEO of Cleveland Pride, Todd J Saporito released the following statement:

“We have been entrusted by our community to create a secure parade and festival environment for our LGBTQ brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, aunts, uncles, friends and allies.

Many gay guys like to chase the fantasy of love. For most of us, we jump the gun and exaggerate our feelings in an effort to match our imagination. People who’ve experience it know there’s no faking when it comes to genuine Love.
Love crosses all orientations, races, and genders, but for gay guys in particular it’s a matter of separating our hearts from our crotches. You know when it’s in the air and 99.9% of the time it’s told through your intuition – not your intellect. There are so many flags that point towards love, but I’ve managed to find thirteen of the Best. So let’s look at the signs:

1. Your Ex Is Old News

Your ex-boyfriend, no matter how hung up on him you might have been, is completely out of the picture. Though it’s normal to come across a picture of him on Facebook and feel a little sad, it’s always going to be overshadowed by the total devotion you have for your current boyfriend/partner. Old feelings have been buried so deep that they’ve virtually disappeared.

2. You Don’t Need To Do Go To The “Gay”borhoods To Have Fun

Going to the gay neighborhoods might be fun and all, but sometimes a quite night at home will bring much more laughs and funny-face competitions at a cheaper price. Watching TV, drinking wine, going to get ice cream, or playing board games are just as fun as going on a trip around the world or to a rock concert.

3. You Literally Can’t Imagine A Future Without Him

One of the biggest differences between like and love is doubt. Doubting your future together is a sure fire way of knowing that you may not be in love with him. When you’re starting a new chapter, you won’t be able to picture without him. Suddenly, a new job, a new place, growing old has a collaborative affair, not so much a question mark.

4. Bye-Bye Grindr!

All the years of anonymous sex or hookup apps (if you’ve succumbed to them) could never compare to true love sex. You’ll have an epiphany one day and see that this is what you’ve been missing. You whip out the smart phone and say bye-bye to Grindr, your naked pics, and all the other “F” buddies in your contacts. Sex has taken on a whole new meaning, and it only gets better every time.

Australia-Divisions have emerged between marriage equality advocates over tactics on whether to throw weight behind a plebiscite campaign or consider delaying calls for same-sex marriage to avoid a popular vote at all costs.
Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays have launched a survey to gauge whether the LGBTI community would prefer to delay marriage equality, in what would amount to a major rethink of tactics.
On Friday, PFLAG national spokeswoman, Shelley Argent, told ABC’s Lateline that some LGBTI people were so fearful of a plebiscite campaign they may prefer to wait for same-sex marriage.

“Somebody said to me, it’s better to wait than to be walking over bodies as you walk down the aisle, and I think that’s very true,” she said.

Australia-Supporters of marriage equality – that is, most of Australia – would have had cause to despair when the Turnbull government was re-elected by the barest of margins on 2 July.
Under a Labor government, marriage equality would have been a reality in Australia by the end of this year. Imagine the jubilation that Australia had finally caught up with the USA, UK, New Zealand and Ireland and the joy for same-sex couples who had waited so long to seal their union.

For those with an optimistic streak, there may still have been a thread of hope left that Turnbull, the former champion of progressive policies and ideas within the Liberal Party and a passionate supporter of marriage equality, would at least force the issue with the conservative wing of his party by putting forward a plebiscite before the end of the year as he promised. Even if it would be a nasty and destructive battle for victory.

Italy - So you're finally moving to Italy and are ready to throw yourself headlong into la dolce vita?
Congratulations. However, moving to Italy (or any other country for that matter) is often fraught with difficulty. Here are a few common mistakes foreigners make when living in Italy. 

1. Kissing or not kissing

Kissing rules are a nightmare for foreigners in Italy, as there is no blanket rule that tells you how to behave: what is culturally normal in one part of the country is less normal in another area.

Generally, men and women can (but don't always) give each other a kiss on each cheek for hello and goodbye in most areas of the country. Women and Women can also do this....but in the centre-north men don't kiss men.

RIO DE JANEIRO - Gus Kenworthy was ready to tell the world he was gay. The freestyle skier had his coming-out story planned in his head before the2014 Sochi Winter Olympic Games.
He understood the gravity of the situation. Through weeks of soul-searching he had concluded the stage was perfect. Russia was attracting global attention for introducing legislation that purported to criminalize homosexual activity on the spurious grounds that it corrupted the minds of children. What better place to make a stand?

“Then,” Kenworthy tells USA Today Sports. “I ended up not doing it.”

Kenworthy captured the hearts of the Olympic television audience in Sochi, winning a silver medal and then adopting a pair of adorable stray dogs.

Getting married should be the happiest, most wonderful time of your life. Sadly, it’s often the most stressful time of one’s life. It doesn’t need to be that way, though. If you’re due to get married, I’m here to help with my top 10 tips for banishing pre-wedding stress.

1. Take up breathing exercises.

This isn’t as boring as it may sound. Try this… Sit quietly and take a deep breath in for a count of four. Then exhale for a count of four. Repeat this exercise for two minutes and take notice of how it begins to make you feel. I recommend making breathing exercises a part of your daily routine to keep stress at bay.

2. Indulge in a technology detox.

If you’ve been busy with planning your wedding, take some time out for yourself and your fiancé. Put your phones out of sight, turn off the television and all other technology distractions. Put on some music, pour yourself a large glass of wine and enjoy some quiet time with your partner. Allowing yourself that time to switch off and relax will bring huge benefits to your life.

3. Exercise

The previous tip may have covered that slightly, but sexercise isn’t the only stress busting activity you can indulge in. Getting regular exercise is key in reducing stress levels. Even just a twenty minute walk each day can help, but if you’re feeling more energetic, get out there and pound the streets or join a gym class. You could even put on some music and dance like nobody is watching, which is surely one of the most fun things to do. If you’re not up for much exercise, make it a social occasion and exercise while catching up with friends. Which leads me to my next tip…

4. Make sure you keep in touch with family and friends.

When planning a wedding, it can be too easy to fall out of the loop with those closest to you. So set aside some time and make an effort to catch up with family and friends. You could involve them in your wedding planning, but I suggest putting the planning to one side and having a proper catch up with people. It’s sure to be a boost to your mood and a massive stress reducer.

5. Run a hot bubble bath.

Sit back and relax. You deserve it. You could even invite your fiancé to join you.

Ho Chi Minh City - Vietnam, called Saigon by the locals, is broad and breezy, tropical and easy-going, with just the right balance of urbanity and grittiness. The city center is filled with trees, parks and boulevards lined by heritage buildings. The European-flavored heart of Saigon stretches from the river to the Opera House along Dong Khoi St, and is lined with 5-star hotels, trendy coffee shops and fine dining. The city spreads out from there in all directions and keeps going - an interlocking puzzle of French colonial architecture, art deco streamline, mid-century googie, and geometric Colorforms tacked on everywhere. It's a café society, balancing hard work at multiple jobs with recliner chair-lined, al fresco drip coffee shops and alcohol-fueled eateries that are open and patronized round the clock.

Dining delights are plentiful and cheap. Shopping opportunities abound. Costs are very low and vacation budgets go a long, long way here. The best way to see the city is on the back of a motorcycle, but high quality taxi services are plentiful (ask your hotel which ones are reliable).

Gay France - Gay men in France were officially permitted to donate blood Monday after having been banned from doing so for 30 years. LGBT rights groups welcome the move, but many remain critical of the strict conditions of celibacy imposed on gay male donors.
“It’s the end of a taboo and discrimination,” France’s Health Minister Marisol Touraine said when she announced in November that France was moving to lift the ban that went into force in 1983, shortly after the HIV virus was discovered.

“Donating blood is an act of generosity, of citizenship, which shouldn’t be conditional upon a (person’s) sexual orientation,” the minister said at the time.

I remember having no problem the first time I asked a guy out. But it was a simple matter because I knew he was gay. But what it I didn't? You want to ask a guy out but you do not know if he is gay. How should you do it?
The answer is very simple: Ask him out without asking him out. Confused? Don't be. I'll explain. I'm a fan of developing relationships as friends first (eventually evolving into romantic friendships, then exclusive dating, then more, etc). You should take this route-especially since his sexuality is up in the air.

Invite him out to do buddy things-a movie; a game of pool; happy hour; a game of Wii-basically, things friends do. Get to know him as a person and open the door for him to get to know you.
How do you approach him? Find something (I'm sorry, anything) that you have in common-the color blue, his sneakers, that gap between his teeth-and strike up a conversation. Then hit him with the invite to do friendly activities.

The idea isn't to seduce him, but to become friends, as you would with any other friend.

You'll build a mutual trust as your friendship grows. Soon afterward you can brush the topic of sexuality. Keep it vague at first by just mentioning gay things, like the latest gay marriage news or gays in the military or your "gay friend" from high school. Then judge his reactions. Once you're comfortable, come out to him. If he's gay or bi, then he'll response with a disclosure of his own - if he is ready to come out and willing to share it with you. If he's not, and worth anything as a human being, he'll stick by your side and at least be your buddy. Worst case scenario, he is not, and you're better off without him.

Italia - The Winner of Mr Gay Limerick 2016, an Italian teacher in a county Limerick school, wants to raise awareness and combat homophobic and transphobic issues across the second level education system.
A resident in Limerick for the past six years, Dr Christian G. Moretti, a teacher of Italian, Spanish and social, personal and health education (SPHE) in Colaiste Ciarain in Croom, said he has been buoyed by the support of students, parents and his colleagues at the school since winning Mr Gay Limerick.

Dr Moretti, who holds a PhD in Comparative Literature from the University of Kent, won the title earlier this month in Pery’s hotel after deciding to enter “for the craic”.

If you’ve ever been called a “suit,” it probably wasn’t a compliment. It meant you were generic, faceless, and a company man to the bone.
Enough, we say. The suit deserves better.
It can be the most valuable item in your wardrobe, lifting your confidence and leaving a positive impression on everyone you meet, says Dan Trepanier, creative director at the men’s retailer Articles of Style.
Trouble is, the bulky blazers and bland trousers in many men’s closets aren’t doing them any favors.
“Tailoring is the first step,” Trepanier says. “Once you have the fit, it’s just about how you style your look.”

Read on for our finishing touches, and discover how to make yourself unforgettable.

1. The Double Breasted Suit

Back in the day, these suits were like muumuus for executives-boxy monstrosities designed to hide potbellies.

Modern versions, however, are nicely tailored, with slim lapels and jackets that end higher to show off your physique, says Nish de Gruiter, vice president of the clothing label Suitsupply.

But ƒunless Gordon Gekko is your spirit animal, forgo the chunky cuff links, fat silky ties, and midlife-crisis statement watches.

2. The Cotton Summer Suit

When the weather is hot and humid, reach for cotton, a fabric that naturally breathes. A neutral color, such as light beige, works best in spring and also allows you the option of splitting up the jacket and trousers.

If you think khaki is too boring, try a darker shade like olive, de Gruiter suggests. It can pair nicely with navy and dark-brown accessories, and won’t seem inappropriate if you keep it in the rotation as late as balmy mid-September.

But no matter which shade you decide to go with, consider the lining, because a fully lined interior will undermine the comfort benefits of cotton, de Gruiter says.

Full linings won’t keep you cool and don’t allow the fabric any give. Instead, look for a half-lined or deconstructed jacket so it fits like a shirt. Softer, less-constructed shoulders won’t trap heat.

Yes, these alternatives can be prone to wrinkles, but summer suits are typically laid-back, so a few creases aren’t a huge deal.

Gay news today - After two seasons on HBO, Looking came to an end this weekend with a film, concluding the stories of a group of gay friends from the San Francisco area. As audiences are watching to see how the show will finally end, actor Raúl Castillo, who portrayed Richie Ventura, is already looking beyond the film and its reception.
"I'm excited for what comes next and what young Latinos, or young people of color, that are being exposed to these kinds of characters, like Richie, will bring to the table," Castillo tells The Advocate in a recent phone interview.

Castillo is straight and Richie is gay. But the two share some indistinguishable qualities. The actor and the character were both raised in small towns - Castillo in McAllen, Texas and Richie in San Leandro, a suburb of the San Francisco Bay Area - before moving to big cities to pursue their dreams.

Seoul, South Korea has emerged as an economic powerhouse within the last few decades. They have experienced explosive economic growth and are considered to be at the forefront of technological development. As a result, the population of Seoul has increased drastically within the last decade. Seoul boasts a population of over 10 million people and is considered to be the world’s second largest metropolitan area with upwards of 25 million people.
Gay Seoul is South Korea’s most gay-oriented city. There are many established gay owned bars and clubs in Seoul located on what is commonly known as “Homo Hill” which is in the Itaewon District. These gay venues are open until the wee morning hours (typically until 5am). If you are looking for somewhere to party then “Homo Hill” should be at the top of your list for places to go. On the weekends Homo Hill can definitely get rowdy so be sure that you don’t get lost and that you remember how to get back to your hotel room.

Seoul in itself is gorgeous, there are tons of things to do and many places to visit. Korea experiences hot/humid and rainy summers, harsh chill bearing winters, so if you are looking for good weather than the best time to go is in the spring or autumn which is in-between the two extremes.

Canada-When Michael Chutskoff started kindergarten in Abbotsford 14 years ago, he promised his school he wouldn’t be gay.
Abbotsford’s Mennonite Educational Institute (MEI) had a covenant that included committing to sexual morality, refraining from homosexuality, and practicing celibacy until marriage, Chutskoff says.
He says the commitments were not brought up much again - until high school, when teachers would remind students of their pledge every few months.

“My school was very anti-gay,” he says.

At the time, MEI, which runs schools from preschool through Grade 12 at its four Abbotsford campuses, was all Chutskoff knew.

Sometimes they don't say it, but they mean it.
Men are mysterious creatures, at least to us ladies. They can be as effusive as women (ok, sometimes), and other times they clam up. And there is one topic that makes men go into silent mode more than any other. And that subject? Love, of course.
Love makes fools of us all, men and women equally. However, women are more prone to expressing their feelings. It's just how we roll. We like to put it all on the table. Men, on the other hand, will sometimes show their love for you in non-verbal gestures. From the way he kisses you to how intently he listens to his posture (of all crazy things), your man is trying to tell you how much you mean to him without actually saying that precious four-letter little word.

But you don't need to keep on wondering, lost in the dark mire of "What does this mean? What did that mean?" when your man does something that feels significant. As ever, YourTango is here to take care of you.

US-The NBA has pulled its 2017 All-Star Game out of Charlotte, North Carolina in the wake of the passage of a controversial measure that has been criticized as anti-LGBT.
"The NBA has decided to relocate the 2017 All-Star Game from Charlotte," the NBA told ABC News today in a statement, adding that it would "make an announcement on the new location of the 2017 NBA All-Star Game in the coming weeks."

"Since March, when North Carolina enacted HB2 and the issue of legal protections for the LGBT community in Charlotte became prominent, the NBA and the Charlotte Hornets have been working diligently to foster constructive dialogue and try to effect positive change," the NBA said. "While we recognize that the NBA cannot choose the law in every city, state, and country in which we do business, we do not believe we can successfully host our All-Star festivities in Charlotte in the climate created by HB2."

Do you ever wish you could gain some insight into the inner workings of a man's mind without him knowing it? Well, it turns out that with a few tricks up your sleeve, you can! - and not in that creepy, Mel Gibson in what Women (or Gay) want sort of way.
It's all about body language, baby!
Body language experts say that only 7 percent of our communications originates from our words, while 55 percent is expressed with our body. The rest of our communications, roughly 38 percent, is derived from the tone of our voice.
So just when you thought you might be out of subtle queues, words left unsaid, and signs from the universe to painstakingly dissect, we're giving you more to work with!

Clues in everyone's body language including (but not limited to) posture, eye contact and even how often someone touches their face reveal whether they’re romantically interested in you or not.

Here are five body language signs to help you decode this language of love:

1. He raises his eyebrows

Social scientists say that when a man is excited, his eyes will become wider to take in more of his surroundings. When this happens, the eyebrows will rise and fall as the eyes attempt to get larger. If you're speaking with a man and he is attracted to you, look (casually) to see if his eyebrows rise and fall while speaking to you.

Body language experts also suggest that men will also become increasingly animated when speaking to a woman they're attracted to. An exaggerated gesture is also a biological attempt to lure you in.

2. He touches his face.

A man who's interested in you will bring attention to his face by touching it at various times - and the same actually rings true for women (or gay) as well. During your date he might run his fingers through his hair, touch his ears, rub his chin or lick his lips - these are all signs that he is attracted to you!

One reason both men and woman (or gay) touch their lips when they see an attractive person is because lips are an erogenous zone, so subconsciously it feels good to touch.

Sen. Marco Rubio, R-Florida, had a heated exchange with a protester Tuesday at a business near the Pulse nightclub shooting scene, which included the accusation that Rubio has “blood on your hands.”
David Moran of Orlando joined press at the event, which was supposed to be focused on how Rubio was trying to help businesses affected by slow traffic around the mass shooting scene.

Instead, about 30 protesters shouted so loudly outside that Rubio could hardly be heard at some points. The goal of the protest was to highlight Rubio's lack of support for such things as gun control measures.

Studies show that gay, lesbian and bisexual people show higher levels of anxiety, depression and suicidal feelings than heterosexual men and women.
Rates of drug and alcohol misuse have also been found to be higher. But the real picture is uncertain because of the reluctance of some patients to disclose their sexuality, and some healthcare staff feeling uncomfortable asking the question.
Poor levels of mental health among gay and bisexual people have often been linked to experiences of homophobic discrimination and bullying.

It may not be easy, but getting help if you're feeling stressed, depressed, anxious or suicidal is one of the most important things you can do.

Dominic Davies from Pink Therapy, a mental health support service for lesbian, gay and bisexual people, says: "As LGB people, our mental health is often under attack from various quarters, and sometimes we can find ourselves being our own worst enemy.

"Counselling or psychotherapy can be a place to take stock and figure out what's going on, and how to better handle the various stresses and strains that surround our lives."

Read about different types of talking therapy and how they can help.

Tunisia-Ahmed Ben Amor, the Vice president of the LGBT rights association Shams is understood to be critically ill following a second suicide attempt.

Ben Amor first attempted suicide last week, by consuming approximately 70 pills, but leaving no note to explain his actions. Ben Amor was released from hospital following treatment where he appears to have attempted suicide a second time.

According to Shams, Ben Amor has been assessed a 3 on the Glasgow Coma Scale, the lowest level of consciousness the system records.

Speaking to Tunisia Live, Belhedi Bouhdid, a spokesperson for Shams said, “We were with him at his house following the first attempt. He asked if we could leave him alone for some time. He took advantage of that to swallow all the pills the doctors had given him.”

Comedy writer and performer, Doug Faulkner, faced homophobic bullying throughout secondary school.

Because of his experience, he's passionate about tackling homophobic bullying in schools. He describes what happened to him.

How did the bullying start?

"I've always been an extrovert, and I was quite effeminate when I started secondary school. At the time, I considered it part of my personality and nothing to do with sex or sexuality. It was just who I was.

Eric Fanning: 'Equality and inclusivity are not experiments. They are American values'

The first openly gay US Secretary of the Army Eric fanning rode in the San Diego Pride parade on Sunday in an open car with boyfriend Ben Masri-Cohen.

Fanning spent the weekend in the sunny California city and also appeared at a rally and at a San Diego Padres baseball game.

His appearance came just weeks after the US military announced it would begin to allow transgender military personnel to serve openly for the first time.

Skin care isn’t only about the way you look – it’s also about the way you smell. For active males, body odor can be a big problem. Luckily, a good men’s body skincare routine can help you reduce BO and make sure you smell fresh. Here are some fast fixes:

1. Shave off body hair. 

Getting rid of excess body hair can help you better control perspiration. Before you take out your razor, read “Male Body Tips You Should Know” for some simple shaving advice.

Gay Puerto Rican boxer- 'They can call me a faggot. I don't care. I decided to be free': Orlando Cruz on his fight to come out as the first openly gay boxer

The first professional boxer to come out as gay has spoken of his lifelong battle to accept his sexuality.

In a searing interview ahead of a fight tonight, Orlando Cruz revealed he had had seen a psychiatrist for years before he made the announcement earlier this month. 

And the 31-year-old spoke of his fury at how the gay community in his native Puerto Rico were persecuted and ostracised for their sexuality.

The jury is out whether the old saying “Money can’t buy you happiness” is actually true but no one can argue with my other favorite bon mot, “When money goes out the door, love flies out the window.” As a group the LGBT community has many monetary advantages, true. But let’s see how we can maximize our financial happiness in our own gay way as we live it up.

1. Set financial independence goals 

I find my clients have a much easier time turning their goals into realities when they have a financial independence plan in place. Example: dream trips around the world often come with a huge price tag, but it’s way easier to say yes when the money is already set aside in your “travel fund.” On the other hand, if you have to pull it out of your 401(k), you’re going to hate the tax bill the IRS sends you next April, taking the ‘bon’ right out of your ‘voyage’.

Financial independence doesn’t have to be a zero sum game when it comes to happiness. You don’t have sacrifice one to have the other. But you do have to plan, get your timing right, operate intelligently and maybe postpone a few temporary pleasures now for your long-term happiness later. It’ll pay, I promise.

2. Don’t let money rule your whole life

This one’s related to lifestyle inflation. The more you work the more you make. The more you make the more you want. The more you want the more you have to work. This can be a vicious cycle. Wanting a little less means that you could save a little more, a gift to your future.

3. Spend money on experiences rather than Stuff

Do you really think when you are 90 you are going to be talking with your friends about what an amazing time you had buying the gold Apple $15,000 Apple iWatch (which then became antiquated the following year when the better one came out)? But for sure you’ll reminisce about that wine tasting trip you took to France or the time you went zip lining through the rainforests of Costa Rica.

4. Don’t spend money you don’t have 

This is often the single most important lesson you must learn because without it you will never achieve financial security. I’m sorry, but that liposuction you’re getting before Coachella is not an “investment.” And if it goes on a credit card, you’re going to be stuck in misery paying for it over and over again.

Before I open my mouth and insert my foot, before I get all you gay guys worked into a tizzy, I have to say: I don’t think there is any such thing as an irreparable mistake. I also believe that everything happens for a purpose. From the perspective of my own designer gay bifocals, mistakes are actually fabulous lessons we’ve been given so that we can better see the purpose in our lives! Too much? Ok, well, if you’re not into personal development, leave us cool kids here to talk about...

Now, 10 Gay Relationship Mistakes:

1. Separate lives. 

I’ve never quite understood gay relationships in which the partners are in a serious, committed relationship but don’t live together. I’m not advocating first date, U-Haul truck, move-in immediately, white picket fence warp-speed relationships, and I also understand that sometimes, things get in the way, like the question of “How would I hook up with other people if we’re living together?”
If that’s your priority, maybe it’s time to rethink this whole “relationship” thing. The mistake?If you can’t live with your man, what other relationships in your life aren’t you able to live with? How you do anything is how you do everything!

2. Remaining in your gay relationship because it’s comfortable. 

Here’s a little secret that we’ll keep just between us boys! No matter how much money he has, available party favors, “to die for sex,” or the size of his loft apartment on 5th Avenue...if the relationship sucks, it sucks. It’s a false sense of comfort to believe “If I leave, I’ll be single and that’s bad.” Yes, you’ll end up single and without his money, or the party favors, or the great sex. But you might actually be happier, and isn’t that what you’re really after? The mistake? Creating a false sense of comfort; believing you need others to feel “worthy” when all you need is love... self-love, to be exact.

3. Open Relationships. 

Define “open”! How you and your guy define having an “open gay relationship,” determines whether you and your guy screw it up royally or masterfully make things work. It’s all about boundaries and agreements, both of which need to be checked and discussed about every 3-6 months. The mistake?No boundaries, no agreements, no relationship... period! Next!

If you’re anything like us, your bucket list of places to go never stops growing. It seems every year, a few new places capture your imagination: those photos on Facebook of a remote Caribbean beach or a friend’s trek through Nepal leave your head spinning. The bucket keeps filling, and there’s no end in sight.
Well, we’ve come to make it worse.
In 2016, we wanted to take a look into the not-so-distant future and announce our own must-go gay travel list for the upcoming year. The new year offers a lot for gay boys who travel, with major events like OutGames and Eurovision drawing us in, and major gay cities like San Francisco playing host to the Super Bowl. But we’re not stopping there. We’ve gathered some of the world’s most exotic and hard-to-get-to destinations that have inspired us - places undergoing significant change that we hope inspire you to make visiting a priority. And in some cases, fabulous places where it’s just so damn cheap we couldn’t pass it up.

Yes, it’s good to be a U.S. traveler in 2016, as the dollar has reached an 11-year high and has made traveling to places like Canada, Australia, Japan, Turkey, and South Africa more affordable than ever. And big increases in capacity - from hotel rooms in NYC to river boats on the Danube - mean a price reprieve while demand catches up.

Canada-On Monday, Anglicans narrowly rejected a resolution to allow same-sex marriage.

But on Tuesday, questions about the integrity of the voting process emerged - leading to a stunning reversal of the result, just hours after several bishops, including Toronto Archbishop Colin Johnson, declared they’d move ahead with same-sex marriages in their jurisdiction regardless of the vote.

Some members attending the General Synod on Monday stood up to say their votes had not been recorded during voting, when passage of the resolution failed by a single vote.

“That is an issue of concern,” said Archbishop Fred Hiltz, primate of the Canadian church. “We cannot leave this synod with this kind of confusion.”

You have a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach, something is not right but you can't quite figure out what that feeling is about. Your spouse has become distant, he/she is working late on a regular basis or, maybe your spouse has moved out of the house with no explanation.

You suspect your spouse is cheating but every time you bring it up with your spouse, he/she denies the possibility. All the signs are there but you don't have any proof. So, pay attention to the signs and your instinct but, be careful not to confuse signs with proof.

1. Regular work habits change.

Working late is a great cover for a spouse who is having an affair. If your spouse suddenly has to work late after years of coming home at a certain time then I would say it is safe to be suspicious that something other than work is going on.

Work related excuses are a good way to account for large blocks of time away from home. They may tell you they are burning the midnight oil when in fact they are working between the sheets with the other man/other woman.

Below are some behaviors that should cause you to pay attention to what is going on in your marriage.
- If your spouse’s work routine changes after years of the "same old, same old." Unless he/she has a new job or a new position in their old job this is a huge red flag.
- If your spouse is suddenly working on projects that take him/her out of town for the weekend you may want to volunteer to go with him/her. If he/she isn’t open to that suggestion then more than likely they already have someone to share that work weekend with.
- If you spouse starts talking about a co-working of the opposite sex it pays to pay attention to what is being said. What can start out as an innocent relationship with a co-working can blossom into something unhealthy. You will be able to tell by what is said the direction his/her relationship with the co-worker is headed. There is no harm in letting your spouse know you are not happy that he/she has become close to a member of the opposite sex at work.

When it comes to figuring out whether your spouse is cheating all you need is your own sense of intuition. No one knows your spouse and their work habits better than you. If something changes with those habits, it doesn’t necessarily mean an affair but it does mean you need to pay attention and find out exactly what is happening and whether or not it is detrimental to your marriage.

2. I love you but I'm not in love with you.

If you hear these words, a big warning bell should go off. This is one of the most consistent things a cheating spouse will say. Your spouse may have a deep, loving bond with you but, intense feelings of passion can override the bond with you and cause your spouse to lose sight of his/her true feelings.

The cheating spouse will develop what I call hormone - induced amnesia. The surging hormones and passion they feel in their new relationship can cause some very skewed thinking.

This is what I feel happens in many relationships that fall victim to infidelity. The spouse who strays has spent years investing time, emotion and energy in the marriage. They may feel that no matter what they do, they cannot or, are not getting what they feel they need from the relationship.

They lack the skills to do something different, something that might work in their favor and finally get them what they need from the relationship. They get stuck in a negative place.

People who are stuck can see no way out, they view their problems as permanent and many times think the only way to get unstuck is to turn to someone else. A new relationship is a great way to distract themselves from the problems in a marriage.

You are suddenly unstuck and enjoying the lust and passion that comes with a new found relationship. All of a sudden, they are getting everything they need from another man or woman. After years of not getting their needs met in the marriage, this can be a huge relief.

If you are reading this article and are someone who has found relief in a relationship with someone other than your spouse, I have something I want you to do.

Before you destroy your marriage and family by leaving for another person, I want you to think about what you are really feeling. Don’t use the new relationship as a distraction to keep you from being honest with yourself and your spouse. If you are a cheating spouse make sure that one of the problems below is not causing you to throw your marriage away just to keep from having to deal with them open and honestly.

Do you feel your spouse is:

- Not spending enough time with the family.
- Rejecting you sexually.
- Working too much.
- Controlling

- Not working with you as a couple to make the marriage better.
- Dismissive of your feelings.
- Is financially irresponsible

Whatever you feel the problems are in your marriage you owe it to yourself and your spouse to get honest with him/her. It may not be easy, it may be painful for your spouse but it is the only way to solve problems because the “I love you but I’m not in love with you,” statement is a sign that something is wrong in the marriage. You may find that after you open up to your spouse that you are playing a role in your own unhappiness.

USA-Exactly one month after a mass shooting that targeted LGBT and Latino people left 49 dead, Republicans in the House are holding a hearing on whether to let American business owners and government contractors to refuse service to LGBT people.
The bill being considered in testimony today before the Republican-controlled House Committee on Oversight and Government Reform would allow businesses and individuals to refuse service if they cited a sincerely held religious belief or "moral conviction."

(Republican Utah Rep. Jason Chaffetz, chairman of the House Committee on Oversight and Government Reform)

Formally known as the First Amendment Defense Act, H.R. 2802 would create a national "religious discrimination" law, allowing businesses and government workers to refuse goods and services to customers who offend their religious sensibilities.

I'm not knocking on my lady friends here, nor am I looking to generalize all gay men into one category or push them into certain stereotypes, but there is a lot to be said about having a gay men as your BFF.
He's my main source of support, my rock in this concrete jungle.
I know I can depend on him for anything and he knows the same about me. We're like brother and sister, Batman and Robin, Seth Rogen and James Franco. In short, we're unbreakable, unshakable and remarkable.
I have to say that I think a lot of what makes us such a power couple (he's clearly my gay husband) is the fact that he, as a gay man, shares so many fantastic qualities with myself, but from a male perspective.

I've said it before and I’ll say it again: Gay men are the best. They have all the emotional wherewithal of a female, while having the same kind of power that we feminists are trying to achieve in the workplace and in relationships.
They're like women 4.0, and I adore them all. I know that it isn't fair to lump all gay men into one (although absolutely perfect) category, I just think that gay men make the best friends for any female. Here are the eight reasons why I love having a gay best friend:

1. You always have a handsome +1

I love being single. When I get invited to fancy par-tays, I can always rely on my fantastic, gorgeous BFF to be my arm candy for the night. Sometimes it can be a little tricky finding nice boys since they tend to think he’s my boyfriend, but it’s so worth it for all of the awesome photos we’ll take throughout the evening.

2. They always support you

My gay best friend wants me to be the very best that I can be. He isn't afraid to push me, to challenge me and to make me fight for my goals. He's been the greatest safety net when I've felt my most afraid and my shoulder to cry on when I've felt my most vulnerable.

Gay men aren't afraid to show their emotions; that's what makes them a lot like girlfriends. There's no hard exterior or “Mr. Cool Guy” act going on; they just generally want to be there to support you unconditionally.