Many gay guys like to chase the fantasy of love. For most of us, we jump the gun and exaggerate our feelings in an effort to match our imagination. People who’ve experience it know there’s no faking when it comes to genuine Love.
Love crosses all orientations, races, and genders, but for gay guys in particular it’s a matter of separating our hearts from our crotches. You know when it’s in the air and 99.9% of the time it’s told through your intuition – not your intellect. There are so many flags that point towards love, but I’ve managed to find thirteen of the Best. So let’s look at the signs:
Your ex-boyfriend, no matter how hung up on him you might have been, is completely out of the picture. Though it’s normal to come across a picture of him on Facebook and feel a little sad, it’s always going to be overshadowed by the total devotion you have for your current boyfriend/partner. Old feelings have been buried so deep that they’ve virtually disappeared.
2. You Don’t Need To Do Go To The “Gay”borhoods To Have Fun
Going to the gay neighborhoods might be fun and all, but sometimes a quite night at home will bring much more laughs and funny-face competitions at a cheaper price. Watching TV, drinking wine, going to get ice cream, or playing board games are just as fun as going on a trip around the world or to a rock concert.
4. Bye-Bye Grindr!
All the years of anonymous sex or hookup apps (if you’ve succumbed to them) could never compare to true love sex. You’ll have an epiphany one day and see that this is what you’ve been missing. You whip out the smart phone and say bye-bye to Grindr, your naked pics, and all the other “F” buddies in your contacts. Sex has taken on a whole new meaning, and it only gets better every time.
7. You’re Not Obsessing Over Him
You don’t need to be clingy because you know he’s yours, and vice versa. Going a few hours without thinking about him is totally healthy, relax. Going a whole weekend or month without thinking about him, however, is a different story. At that point you might just be in a really strong like or respect for him. When you’re in love, you value each other’s space because you allow yourselves to live your life
8. You Truly Value His Opinions
He has an interesting perspective you always respect. Do you think about his opinions when you see a movie, read a book, or try on clothes? Do you take his ideas into account when it comes to your own decisions? If so, you value his brain and not just his looks or body.
9. He Brings The Best Out Of You
When you’re the best version of yourself, you will always welcome a content and prosperous relationship with someone else. The whole point of love is to help each other grow. It’s a give and take journey that can only be learned from trial and error. And if you hold on to your individuality during the process, it’s obvious he accepts all of you.
10. You’re Completely Yourself
You don’t filter your thoughts and you can say whatever it is you feel and not be scrutinized. That’s freedom. When your individuality has yet to be weakened, both your hearts have grown comfortable around each other. A likely symptom after that is an emotional bond. You’ve finally opened yourself up to the possibilities.
11. You Get Over Your Fights
The fact that you’ve forgiven each other shows an unconscious commitment you’ve already made in the back of your mind to love this person. You’re tied together. Otherwise there would be no reason to mend the battle. There’s a bigger picture you both hold onto, an unspoken connection you truly understand should never be sacrificed.
12. You’ll Take Risks With Each Other
New and unexpected adventures are sure to present themselves, and the fact that you’re willing to take big risks says a lot about how you feel. Moving in together, purchasing a home, going skydiving, facing your fears, taking far-away trips are all risky things to do both for money and potential turnovers. But with him, it’s not nearly as dangerous as you originally thought.
13. Compromise Is Easy
What’s yours is his, and what’s his is yours. Love opens itself up to the willingness of compromise. Whenever you’re fighting just for the sake of being right, or are being a bully just for the sake of getting your way, love has no room to flourish. When there’s a tight bond, there’s no time for debates or barriers. Compromise is a necessity and will always come easy through communication.
Love crosses all orientations, races, and genders, but for gay guys in particular it’s a matter of separating our hearts from our crotches. You know when it’s in the air and 99.9% of the time it’s told through your intuition – not your intellect. There are so many flags that point towards love, but I’ve managed to find thirteen of the Best. So let’s look at the signs:
1. Your Ex Is Old News
Your ex-boyfriend, no matter how hung up on him you might have been, is completely out of the picture. Though it’s normal to come across a picture of him on Facebook and feel a little sad, it’s always going to be overshadowed by the total devotion you have for your current boyfriend/partner. Old feelings have been buried so deep that they’ve virtually disappeared.
2. You Don’t Need To Do Go To The “Gay”borhoods To Have Fun
Going to the gay neighborhoods might be fun and all, but sometimes a quite night at home will bring much more laughs and funny-face competitions at a cheaper price. Watching TV, drinking wine, going to get ice cream, or playing board games are just as fun as going on a trip around the world or to a rock concert.
3. You Literally Can’t Imagine A Future Without Him
One of the biggest differences between like and love is doubt. Doubting your future together is a sure fire way of knowing that you may not be in love with him. When you’re starting a new chapter, you won’t be able to picture without him. Suddenly, a new job, a new place, growing old has a collaborative affair, not so much a question mark.
One of the biggest differences between like and love is doubt. Doubting your future together is a sure fire way of knowing that you may not be in love with him. When you’re starting a new chapter, you won’t be able to picture without him. Suddenly, a new job, a new place, growing old has a collaborative affair, not so much a question mark.
4. Bye-Bye Grindr!
All the years of anonymous sex or hookup apps (if you’ve succumbed to them) could never compare to true love sex. You’ll have an epiphany one day and see that this is what you’ve been missing. You whip out the smart phone and say bye-bye to Grindr, your naked pics, and all the other “F” buddies in your contacts. Sex has taken on a whole new meaning, and it only gets better every time.
5. You Don’t Judge His Bad Qualities
It takes a lot for a gay guy to accept someone’s bad qualities since it’s usually the first thing we see on a person. Acceptance is a must have in a healthy relationship. When you’re truly okay with the bad just as much as the good, there will be nothing in your way. When you’re not embarrassed for him about anything, then your heart is speaking for you. That’s a good sign.
6. It’s A Privilege To Help Him
You feel good helping him, teaching him, doing nice things for him when he’s feeling down or in need. Cooking for him or surprising him with things like food when he’s a little low on cash will probably make you feel better than him. Not only is it a privilege, but it’s an honor. Helping him is like helping yourself.
It takes a lot for a gay guy to accept someone’s bad qualities since it’s usually the first thing we see on a person. Acceptance is a must have in a healthy relationship. When you’re truly okay with the bad just as much as the good, there will be nothing in your way. When you’re not embarrassed for him about anything, then your heart is speaking for you. That’s a good sign.
6. It’s A Privilege To Help Him
You feel good helping him, teaching him, doing nice things for him when he’s feeling down or in need. Cooking for him or surprising him with things like food when he’s a little low on cash will probably make you feel better than him. Not only is it a privilege, but it’s an honor. Helping him is like helping yourself.
7. You’re Not Obsessing Over Him
You don’t need to be clingy because you know he’s yours, and vice versa. Going a few hours without thinking about him is totally healthy, relax. Going a whole weekend or month without thinking about him, however, is a different story. At that point you might just be in a really strong like or respect for him. When you’re in love, you value each other’s space because you allow yourselves to live your life
8. You Truly Value His Opinions
He has an interesting perspective you always respect. Do you think about his opinions when you see a movie, read a book, or try on clothes? Do you take his ideas into account when it comes to your own decisions? If so, you value his brain and not just his looks or body.
9. He Brings The Best Out Of You
When you’re the best version of yourself, you will always welcome a content and prosperous relationship with someone else. The whole point of love is to help each other grow. It’s a give and take journey that can only be learned from trial and error. And if you hold on to your individuality during the process, it’s obvious he accepts all of you.
10. You’re Completely Yourself
You don’t filter your thoughts and you can say whatever it is you feel and not be scrutinized. That’s freedom. When your individuality has yet to be weakened, both your hearts have grown comfortable around each other. A likely symptom after that is an emotional bond. You’ve finally opened yourself up to the possibilities.
11. You Get Over Your Fights
The fact that you’ve forgiven each other shows an unconscious commitment you’ve already made in the back of your mind to love this person. You’re tied together. Otherwise there would be no reason to mend the battle. There’s a bigger picture you both hold onto, an unspoken connection you truly understand should never be sacrificed.
12. You’ll Take Risks With Each Other
New and unexpected adventures are sure to present themselves, and the fact that you’re willing to take big risks says a lot about how you feel. Moving in together, purchasing a home, going skydiving, facing your fears, taking far-away trips are all risky things to do both for money and potential turnovers. But with him, it’s not nearly as dangerous as you originally thought.
13. Compromise Is Easy
What’s yours is his, and what’s his is yours. Love opens itself up to the willingness of compromise. Whenever you’re fighting just for the sake of being right, or are being a bully just for the sake of getting your way, love has no room to flourish. When there’s a tight bond, there’s no time for debates or barriers. Compromise is a necessity and will always come easy through communication.
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