Do you want to be eye candy all your life, or do you want to be a men of substance?
We’ve heard for years, “If you want to get a hot men, you need to hit the gym,” and for years I believed it. It’s true in many ways that hot people only want to sleep with hot people. The more I worked out my buns, the more eyes I started to attract – eyes that were attached to ridiculously good looking guys.
We didn’t have a problem with it. After endless hours of working on my body, if I didn’t get some kind of attention I’d be pissed. But as wandering eyes become more frequent, I realized that everyone (yes, everyone) was wrong. A nice body didn’t grant me opportunities to find a boyfriend. All it did was create situations for better sex.
Gay guys are visual creatures because we’re men. We can’t help it. We love window shopping – the grocery store, coffee shop, corner market. It’s easy to attract attention, but is it really the kind of attention we want if we’re looking for a long term boyfriend?
Lust is always in the back of our minds when we have chemistry, but the bridge taking us to the next level doesn’t lie in our body fat. It depends on what we ourselves have to offer.
The more focus you put into sculpting your body to perfection, the more time you take away from discovering how to be compatible as a human being. Working the body language can only do so much, but no matter how you look at it, you will always be leading with an artificial message. While you might think it’s a necessary tool to get a man’s attention, your body will ultimately act as a safeguard.
Eye candy will always remain eye candy so long as he sells himself as such. A great body, though nice to gaze at, should never be a calling card. We’re not saying you should give up the gym and start eating Krispy Kremes all day, but the amount of focus spent on your body should be equally distributed to other aspects of yourself – for example, your self-worth.
Your value depends on what you have to offer the world, not on how much attention you get from guys on the street. For your entire livelihood to depend on that would be diminishing your potential. This is short-lived esteem and disappears just as quickly.
A bubble butt won’t buy you happiness, trust me.
On top of your exercise routine, which I’m sure is complex, add some mental, spiritual and compassion exercises as well. Discover what you have to offer the world and how you can bring it to fruition. Connecting soul-to-soul with a man is more valuable than you give it credit for. It’s how you define your legacy.
A nice body is a dime a dozen, but a beautiful soul impacts the world and increases your worth like you won’t believe. If you want to find love, you’re not going to find it at the gym or on the jogging track. There you’ll find a great way to enhance physical energy and balance (health is always important), but you can’t depend on visual appeal to bring authentic companionship when the focus is skin deep.
Take it from me. A man’s worth lies in his heart and soul. A great body will definitely bring you a lot of sex, but love needs something stronger. Work on yourself just as hard as you would your body. Find a purpose and really let it shine. That kind of awareness is rare.
Character always beats a nice body. It’s possible to have both, but if you ask me, let the character be first and the body be second. You’ll soon see a major difference in how the world perceives you.
We’ve heard for years, “If you want to get a hot men, you need to hit the gym,” and for years I believed it. It’s true in many ways that hot people only want to sleep with hot people. The more I worked out my buns, the more eyes I started to attract – eyes that were attached to ridiculously good looking guys.
We didn’t have a problem with it. After endless hours of working on my body, if I didn’t get some kind of attention I’d be pissed. But as wandering eyes become more frequent, I realized that everyone (yes, everyone) was wrong. A nice body didn’t grant me opportunities to find a boyfriend. All it did was create situations for better sex.
Gay guys are visual creatures because we’re men. We can’t help it. We love window shopping – the grocery store, coffee shop, corner market. It’s easy to attract attention, but is it really the kind of attention we want if we’re looking for a long term boyfriend?
Lust is always in the back of our minds when we have chemistry, but the bridge taking us to the next level doesn’t lie in our body fat. It depends on what we ourselves have to offer.
The more focus you put into sculpting your body to perfection, the more time you take away from discovering how to be compatible as a human being. Working the body language can only do so much, but no matter how you look at it, you will always be leading with an artificial message. While you might think it’s a necessary tool to get a man’s attention, your body will ultimately act as a safeguard.
Eye candy will always remain eye candy so long as he sells himself as such. A great body, though nice to gaze at, should never be a calling card. We’re not saying you should give up the gym and start eating Krispy Kremes all day, but the amount of focus spent on your body should be equally distributed to other aspects of yourself – for example, your self-worth.
Your value depends on what you have to offer the world, not on how much attention you get from guys on the street. For your entire livelihood to depend on that would be diminishing your potential. This is short-lived esteem and disappears just as quickly.
A bubble butt won’t buy you happiness, trust me.
On top of your exercise routine, which I’m sure is complex, add some mental, spiritual and compassion exercises as well. Discover what you have to offer the world and how you can bring it to fruition. Connecting soul-to-soul with a man is more valuable than you give it credit for. It’s how you define your legacy.
A nice body is a dime a dozen, but a beautiful soul impacts the world and increases your worth like you won’t believe. If you want to find love, you’re not going to find it at the gym or on the jogging track. There you’ll find a great way to enhance physical energy and balance (health is always important), but you can’t depend on visual appeal to bring authentic companionship when the focus is skin deep.
Take it from me. A man’s worth lies in his heart and soul. A great body will definitely bring you a lot of sex, but love needs something stronger. Work on yourself just as hard as you would your body. Find a purpose and really let it shine. That kind of awareness is rare.
Character always beats a nice body. It’s possible to have both, but if you ask me, let the character be first and the body be second. You’ll soon see a major difference in how the world perceives you.
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