Like most gay men, you’ve been to your fair share of clubs, bars, circuit parties and live events looking for Mr. Right, or at least Mr. Right Now.
Then you discovered the convenience of online dating, where your next day was just a few clicks away and there was an endless supply of hot guys who all seemed very interested in meeting you. However, you know by now that many of those men interested in meeting you were either looking to string you along without having the follow-through to show up for a first date, or worse they just wanted a sugar daddy and were hoping to cast you in that role for as long as you were willing to play along.
So, in an age where LGBT individuals are finally gaining equality in political life, what can you do to gain some equality in your dating life as well?
1. You’ll Catch Better Fish With Better Hooks
The first thing to keep in mind is that your prospective next date only knows what you tell them about you. That doesn’t mean you should lie about yourself, but it does mean there are some facts you probably want to omit if you are serious about finding an equal as your next match.
“The biggest thing to remember is that everyone reads your dating profile and the messages you send carefully, so what you include in them has a lot to do with who responds to you” said Tucker L. of AllMale.com, a leading dating site for gay men over forty.
“If you have managed to make millions of dollars during your career, that’s great and we are happy for you, but you wouldn’t walk up to a stranger at a cocktail party and say ‘Hi, I make millions of dollars’ unless you wanted to become a sugar daddy.
You can mention what you do as a career, and things of that nature but throwing out dollar signs and words like ‘very successful’ is just begging for every street urchin and hustler to hit-you-up when they are looking for a free meal ticket.” Talk about who you are, not what you are, if you want to meet better men.
2. Aim Higher
Yes, we’ve all done it. Browsing through dating profiles to find the hottest guy on the entire site and then sending over a coy message or two to see if he will be willing to nibble back at us. Instead, take a look at who is out there and be realistic about your targets when you aim to find an equal match.
“There are millions of great men on AllMale, and 99.999% of them are not the single hottest man on the site physically. Would you really be less excited to date the guy who is hotter than 98% of the others, or 93% of the others? Shouldn’t you at least look at what kind of career he has, what kind of education he has earned and so on?” said Tucker.
“Seriously, how many male model looking 19 year old men with no career and a high school education do you think are looking to date a 51 year old financier or 38 year old restaurateur without an eye on having them pay for things to support their lavish lifestyle?”
Find a real man living a real life and build fantasies together, rather than finding a fantasy man and trying to convince yourself you might someone build a life together.
3. Look, Message, Listen, Next
Get accustomed to messaging many men. The odds are always in your favor thanks to the huge number of eligible men signed on to dating sites at all hours of the day or night in your local area.
“I tell all my friends personally, most men on dating sites aren’t worth dating – but many are and the total cost of choosing someone else is one single click!” Tucker explained. “Message twenty men, really listen to their responses, drop the worst 10 and message 10 more. Within a month or two you’ll have filtered out a lot of the riffraff and you’ll have a steady stream of handsome, intelligent, fun and damn near equal gay men to date every night of the week.
Just three simple steps is all it takes to solve your sugar daddy conundrum. Will you take Tucker’s advice, or just keep plowing ahead going from one sexy moocher to the next in search of a love that never lasts? Let us know, we always love hearing from you…Good Luck!
Then you discovered the convenience of online dating, where your next day was just a few clicks away and there was an endless supply of hot guys who all seemed very interested in meeting you. However, you know by now that many of those men interested in meeting you were either looking to string you along without having the follow-through to show up for a first date, or worse they just wanted a sugar daddy and were hoping to cast you in that role for as long as you were willing to play along.
So, in an age where LGBT individuals are finally gaining equality in political life, what can you do to gain some equality in your dating life as well?
1. You’ll Catch Better Fish With Better Hooks
The first thing to keep in mind is that your prospective next date only knows what you tell them about you. That doesn’t mean you should lie about yourself, but it does mean there are some facts you probably want to omit if you are serious about finding an equal as your next match.
“The biggest thing to remember is that everyone reads your dating profile and the messages you send carefully, so what you include in them has a lot to do with who responds to you” said Tucker L. of AllMale.com, a leading dating site for gay men over forty.
“If you have managed to make millions of dollars during your career, that’s great and we are happy for you, but you wouldn’t walk up to a stranger at a cocktail party and say ‘Hi, I make millions of dollars’ unless you wanted to become a sugar daddy.
You can mention what you do as a career, and things of that nature but throwing out dollar signs and words like ‘very successful’ is just begging for every street urchin and hustler to hit-you-up when they are looking for a free meal ticket.” Talk about who you are, not what you are, if you want to meet better men.
2. Aim Higher
Yes, we’ve all done it. Browsing through dating profiles to find the hottest guy on the entire site and then sending over a coy message or two to see if he will be willing to nibble back at us. Instead, take a look at who is out there and be realistic about your targets when you aim to find an equal match.
“There are millions of great men on AllMale, and 99.999% of them are not the single hottest man on the site physically. Would you really be less excited to date the guy who is hotter than 98% of the others, or 93% of the others? Shouldn’t you at least look at what kind of career he has, what kind of education he has earned and so on?” said Tucker.
“Seriously, how many male model looking 19 year old men with no career and a high school education do you think are looking to date a 51 year old financier or 38 year old restaurateur without an eye on having them pay for things to support their lavish lifestyle?”
Find a real man living a real life and build fantasies together, rather than finding a fantasy man and trying to convince yourself you might someone build a life together.
3. Look, Message, Listen, Next
Get accustomed to messaging many men. The odds are always in your favor thanks to the huge number of eligible men signed on to dating sites at all hours of the day or night in your local area.
“I tell all my friends personally, most men on dating sites aren’t worth dating – but many are and the total cost of choosing someone else is one single click!” Tucker explained. “Message twenty men, really listen to their responses, drop the worst 10 and message 10 more. Within a month or two you’ll have filtered out a lot of the riffraff and you’ll have a steady stream of handsome, intelligent, fun and damn near equal gay men to date every night of the week.
Just three simple steps is all it takes to solve your sugar daddy conundrum. Will you take Tucker’s advice, or just keep plowing ahead going from one sexy moocher to the next in search of a love that never lasts? Let us know, we always love hearing from you…Good Luck!
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